Breaking The Cycle of Being STUCK

What does it mean to be stuck?

How many times have we heard someone say or have said ourselves the things we “used to be” and “used to do”?

How many times have we been guilty of getting stuck in those “used to be” moments?

“I remember when I used to be a size 4.” “I remember when my business was booming.” Or “ This is the way we used to do it.”

I can go on and on, but I want to know what are you doing NOW? What changes are you making to surpass the past? Nothing is wrong with reflecting on memories and accomplishments, however do not get stuck in those moments.

Sometimes we can be so consumed with our past that we lose focus on our present and future. I’m sure we all know someone who is stuck on what it was, instead of looking at what it is. There’s always new levels to reach and conquer. Let’s not abandon our hopes and dreams by looking back on our “used to be”.

I took the time to look up the definition of stuck and three meanings really grabbed my attention.

  1. Be or become fixed or jammed in one place as a result of an obstruction.
  2. Remain in a static condition; fail to progress.
  3. Be or remain in a specified place or situation, typically one perceived as tedious or unpleasant.

You may one day find yourself in a “stuck” situation. Your career is stuck. Your ministry or outreach is stuck. Your relationship is stuck. Your finances are stuck and so on. And you’re constantly looking back at what it “used to be”. Your past has now obstructed your view on the things which lies ahead.

You have now become:

Stagnant – not moving forward

Toxic – your past thoughts have become poisonous to your future

Unsure – you have no idea of what’s next

Confused – thinking it was better in the past.

Kidnap – “used to be” is now holding hostage “what it can be”.

In our lives there should always be some type of movement happening. If you’re not moving, you have become a victim of being stuck. Even if you have to take a step back in order to move forward, that is still progression. The main goal is to continue to flow. Flow like the rivers that are always going somewhere. A Continuous FLOW!!

In order to make progress from your “stuck” place, your perception has to change. You can no longer view yourself as the person you were 5, 10 or 20 years ago. What may have worked for you then may not necessarily work now. We all have heard that things get better with time. As time passes, we should be looking for more ways to grow. A reflection should only be that, but never a stopping point.

Challenge yourself from this day forward that you will continue to flow. Your latter days will be greater than your former.

With love,

Candidly Charmaine


4 thoughts on “Breaking The Cycle of Being STUCK”

  1. This brought tears to my eyes because I do not know someone who is stuck I am that someone that is stuck. This hit home with me like a mac truck. When I tell you this spoke volumes of what I needed to hear. Thank YOU so much my sister. This was encouragement on a life changing level. Love and Hugs


  2. This was rich In every way possible ! We value and appreciate the gift that you are and your sound wisdom thank you for being candidly Charmaine!


  3. This is so profound and it really speak volumes to many people lives. Sometimes we struggle with a complacent mind state. Your encouraging words will continue to uplift people from where their stand. I pray you continue to speak faith filled words each and everyday.


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